Possessiveness The Signs of jealousy….

Jealousy, that dragon which slays love under the pretence of keeping it alive.     --Havelock Ellis

In a relationship, there is a fine thin line between possessiveness and jealousy, and for most of the time it is good to be sticking to the side of possessiveness because it is safer, less violent on emotions, minimum torture to yourself and your partner. It is when the possessiveness changes and takes the tone of excess then it harms hinder a relationship.

Truly speaking, the signs of jealousy are mainly because of following reasons.

Firstly, the inferiority complex which develops due to a comparative studies of either the partner’s lifestyle or daily activities. You can be generous or selflessness but at some corner of your brain you nurture this inferiority complex and you wait for a day to burst it out when it is fully grown.

Secondly, it is the green eyed monster which is with us from our childhood selfishness. This rears its nasty head when your loved one shows even a small amount of attention to someone or something else instead of you. You feel bitter about not being the focus of interest and jealousy overcomes you. At such times, you won't think about anyone else's well-being but your own.

Sometime the signs of jealousy will sneak up to you and catch you before you even realize it. The realization comes suddenly when you feel uneasy about things when you lack the happiness inside you when you had with your partner before this monster invaded your life. Introspection in retrospect can often be deceiving. When you look back on failed relationships and assess the relationship issues, you may find yourself glossing over the bad patches. We all come across to failure in some point of life where we find a dead end, wrong turn or wrong path but what we learn in the wisdom of failure is Let it Go. When we let go the reason, we learn to love again.